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When the Wife Steps Out

No. Not like that. I am still in my marriage. 100%. What I mean is stepping out from the shadow.

There is a part of me that feels more comfortable when Mark is in the spotlight and I’m hiding behind him. I’ve spent much of my life hiding like that. It’s not a bad thing. It’s just a thing. There is a certain intelligence in knowing where our strengths lie, and knowing when to step out versus when to allow the bolder partner to stand in the forefront.

Mark waited for years for me to write a book before he finally jumped ahead to complete the task. And I was more than happy to cower behind him while nudging him to keep going forward into that light. I still haven’t completed a writing project but I continue to keep a few of them simmering.

We’ve been working on a new plan. It means letting go of a few things — like Earthly Journeys (stopped operations mid-April, 2016) — and Mark is seeking a new path for FUSE Community Work Hub. We are beginning to focus on a new commitment to writing and publishing. It will be a long slow build. Building our author platforms one reader at a time. Building services that support authors and independent publishers, raise the bar for self-publishing and make the most of our skills.

I feel fortunate to have found a skill that is also a passion. I love editing. I want to shout about it. Well, I don’t really want to, but I am learning how to. I’ve been doing it quietly in the shadows for more than ten years, but now I’m going professional. I joined the Editors’ Association of Canada. I created a LinkedIn account. I have a new resume. I’m ready to shine.

 

 

 

 

16 Responses

  • Carol
    May 2, 2016

    Congratulations, Sheila! It’s great to see you feeling such confidence in the choice of a new direction!
    ONWARD! Love Carol&Allan

    Carol May 2, 2016
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    • Sheila Cameron
      May 2, 2016

      Thank you Carol and Allan … a little bit of directed focus can carry us a long way!

      Sheila Cameron May 2, 2016
  • May 2, 2016

    You do shine … and you help others shine too! Thanks from the person who understands that better than anyone!

    Mark Cameron May 2, 2016
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    • Sheila Cameron
      May 2, 2016

      You are most welcome, Mark! It’s been fantastic working with you … we make a great team!

      Sheila Cameron May 2, 2016
  • Mum
    May 3, 2016

    My dear Sheila, I loved you in the shadow and I love you when you shine. Congratulations on “Stepping out” and may your light shine for many years to come. Love Mum

    Mum May 3, 2016
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    • Sheila Cameron
      May 3, 2016

      Thanks Mum! I hope you still love me when I shine a light on my childhood with my memoir … ha ha … not to worry … it’s all good!

      Sheila Cameron May 3, 2016
    • May 3, 2016

      No, it’s not. Look out, Mom! And I don’t even know you, or Sheila, much, and certainly nothing of her childhood. But what little I know of Sheila, I’m sure her memoir will make you proud — even if some skeletons come tumbling out of the dishwasher.

      PJ Reece May 3, 2016
    • Sheila Cameron
      May 3, 2016

      There was no dishwasher, PJ. I did ALL those dishes ALL by myself by hand … even the big greasy turkey roaster and the cast iron fry pan that I could barely lift. Oh woe. Ha ha. Funny how nowadays I actually enjoy doing dishes … and I nearly always snub the dishwasher …

      Sheila Cameron May 3, 2016
  • May 3, 2016

    I think you already shine too. I just think the world of you Sheila Cameron. The world needs people like you and is better for it. Can’t wait to see what else you offer the universe. 🙂

    Paula Howley May 3, 2016
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    • Sheila Cameron
      May 3, 2016

      Awwwww … thank you Paula! Very sweet of you to say. Warmed my heart this afternoon …

      Sheila Cameron May 3, 2016
  • Mum
    May 3, 2016

    A tiny correction here, we actually did have a dishwasher in the same house where the pool was, but I liked your “poor you” comment. love Mum

    Mum May 3, 2016
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    • Sheila Cameron
      May 4, 2016

      What?!? Where were you guys hiding the dishwasher?! That just makes it all the more cruel …

      Sheila Cameron May 4, 2016
    • May 4, 2016

      Sorry to have opened a can worms. (not) More than ever I’m looking forward to the memoir.

      PJ Reece May 4, 2016
  • Mum
    May 4, 2016

    I’m not sure if I am.

    Mum May 4, 2016
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    • May 4, 2016

      Sure you are, “Mum.” Don’t we all secretly yearn for a healthy dose of disillusionment. What a relief when the truth comes out. You’ll be a free woman. Just be careful dancing in the streets. Not many out there are free.

      PJ Reece May 4, 2016
    • Sheila Cameron
      May 5, 2016

      Oh right, the canned worms. Those must have been kept next to the hidden dishwasher. I’d better get my memoir done before I forget anything else!

      Sheila Cameron May 5, 2016

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